Sheri,
The advice you gave worked about getting along at my new job. Basically, I am silent and alert. I simply perform to the best of my ability and so far they really like me. I am curious, I feel cautious on voicing my opinions. I do feel that I am holding back on how I want to express myself and I was a little confused with the advice you gave me. I thought that the teachings of the Toltecs were to live life in your way, fully expressing yourself (which I am not at the moment). Also I thought you were not supposed to try and please the other person simply because you are not inside their head and have no idea what is on their mind. However, I must say your advice definitely helped in maintaining relations with fellow workers. Thanks again and I most likely will be in touch.
-Doing my best
Dear Doing your best,
I am so glad. Yes, you are to live your life to the fullest - but to do that you must create your own dream. Not try to disrespect the dreams and structures of others. When in another dream you must follow the rules of that dream or you will suffer. If you are okay with that great - but why do that to yourself?
You can voice an opinion - but you can preface it like this: I was thinking that this might be helpful - being that I do not have the experience that you do - can you tell me if you think my idea would be helpful or not?
That clearly indicates that you know that they are more experienced than you and that you recognize that your idea may or may not be useable. That is respectful communication. Living your life to the fullest does not mean giving your opinion to those who may not want it. So to get past that snafu - speaking like this allows you to put forth an idea while at the same time being respectful of the current structure. That is a good stalker.
The problem is that you are confused about what it means to live your life fully - that does not mean to feel free to say or do what you want when you want without consequences. No one really cares about your opinion or mine for that matter as everyone is in their own dream. So to be able to cross over from one dream to the next we have to find a way to make what we want to share interesting to the other person. If everyone did whatever they wanted without consideration for others dreams there would be chaos.
So - if you want to live how you want - create your own dream and then hire folks to come into your dream that you are living your way. So right now you are young - learn all you can from others and when you are ready - do your own thing.
Blessings & love, Sheri
