Dear Sheri,
I'm finding that as I view daily encounters with different eyes, it can be somewhat disconcerting! In the moment awareness, as I'm encountering another, sometimes leaves me not knowing how to handle/process this new information! Example: At lunch with 2 friends. Friend A is animatedly talking to friend B, for an extended length of time, about her recent trips to Russia and SW USA, never once looking at me; ie seemingly not including me in the conversation! Yes, I recognize that I'm taking this exclusion personally! Yes, I know I must shift my perception and not let this "friend" steal my Joy/take my power in the moment! BUUUUT, somehow I seem to be at a loss as to HOW to make that shift! How to go from a THINKING level to a FEELING level! And letting go of my judgmental thinking! By the way, this was the 2nd time, this happened with my lunch buddies! Now, I find myself re-evaluating this one friendship and feeling uncomfortable about making changes! Wondering if I really NEED to distance myself from friend A? And if so. not to feel guilty about it! And what about my relationship with friend B? AAAGGGGHHH!
I would much appreciate your feed-back, Sheri! Thank you for choosing JOY!
With Love and Gratitude
Dear Friend,
There is nothing to do with your friends - the issue is in your perception and judgment of your friends. You are not a victim - if they are "ignoring" you - pipe up and talk with them rather than sitting quietly and feeling bad. Life is actually simple once you let it be that way. All your conflict is coming from opposing thought forms in your own mind not from anything outside of you. The tough part is seeing that in the moment and taking responsibility for our own thinking!
Blessings & love, Sheri
