Dear Sheri,
I have been in a three month relationship. It has been the first one in two years and I really care for this person. I think I liked him so much, I had the fear of losing him most of the time and seemed to walk right into exactly that. The green eyed monster of jealousy reared it ugly head so to say two weeks ago on my part. Not that bad, but bad enough that words were said between us, too many, and since then things have not been the same to the point of breaking up. I could not get it to turn back to the loving feeling prior to the words that we exchanged.
I have been following your teachings and Buddhism teachings and know better than to feel how I am feeling. It really hurts knowing I may never see this person again and I am having trouble sleeping, eating, working. I know this is silly and what the teachings would say. But how do you stop that awful hurt feeling and live without forming attachment. It is so hard. It seems easy to say it until it presents itself and there it just comes right back, like all that I have learned went right out the window.
Thank you for all you do! Sleepless in Florida
Dear Sleepless,
Nothing is wrong with what you are feeling ever - it is your alarm system for what you are thinking. So you would be best served reviewing your fear-based beliefs about relationship and your self-worth. If you do not think you are worthy of love you will be fearful and want to control what little morsels of love come your way. That will compel you to behave in ways that create the very outcome you fear most. Since you created that very thing now you are beating yourself up for taking that action which is more lack of self-worth. Let it go angel. Love, Sheri
