Hello Sheri,
Thank you for making this blog a resource for people, as I have been challenged by something I'd like to get your opinion about. You made the following statement on the Amazon.com webpage for your Toltec Wisdom book:
"Are you living in an area that is not supportive of your peace and centeredness, but you're staying because you are too lazy to move or not sure where you would rather go?"
Well my situation is that I'd really like to move out of my area, and be somewhere wooded and green and that has lots of trees. However, my 13-year old daughter is very involved here in her church and several social circles and does not want to move, nor does my 7-yr old daughter. I am a single mother and rely on a lot of support with my kids from my parents, who live less than a mile from me here in Phoenix. So my question was, do you think it's insane for me to continue living here for the sake of my daughters and my parents, rather than move away to a different geographical location, simply because it's "the right" thing to do? At a core level I feel like I would be so selfish to take my kids away from their comfort zone, just because I love the trees. Would you mind sharing your thoughts with me?
In gratitude and love
Dear Frustrated,
Thank you for the note. Every action we take in life has consequences. If we have the insight to see what those outcomes might be we can decide if we want those outcomes.
Have you decided where you would like to live? Have you gone there with the children? Have you engaged them in the process? Truthfully no child wants to move. So asking them would be a useless endeavor. However - it does not sound like you have done any work to see where you want to be or even to investigate if it would be possible.
Most people use their dreams to punish themselves because they just keep thinking about them rather than taking action on them. Start taking action and see what happens along the way. You will receive clues as to whether or not this is best for you. If everything moves effortlessly and you find a great place with a fabulous church (that you take the kids to during a visit so that they can make some friends) and they find it fun and you find a supportive situation (like perhaps people to watch the kids) and a job - then you will see that things are unfolding for you.
Your limiting thoughts are the biggest problem you have right now. Anything is possible, you must take action so that you can see if what you are thinking is actually what your heart wants - that is important. Many times the mind makes all kinds of proposals because the grass always seems better on the other side, but then once you start researching you may find that there are things about those places that you do not enjoy. But you would never have known that if you did not proceed. I encourage you to take action so that you can get answers rather than sitting around thinking and thinking.
If you do that you will never be happy because you will always be wondering what if?
Blessings, Sheri
