Dear Sheri,
Thank you for your weekly audios! It is such fun when something hits you up along side of your head and allows you to see more clearly! For whatever reason, guess I was just ripe and your words resonated, your audio regarding judging and projecting helped me to see what I have been doing at a deeper and clearer level. I knew that I was still creating much of my reality from fears even though I have been working to incorporate the wise Toltec teachings into my life for several years now. When I listened to your audio, it was just so clear for the very first time that I am judging my husband and taking the most minor things ever so personally. In my mind I have denied that I judged him! I knew that I was taking things personally, but I never had been able to see it so clearly as originating from that moment of judgment!!
It seems that now that I can see how I am judging him, that perhaps I am ready to see how I am also judging myself. Can you give me some pointers as to how to detect when one judges oneself? I have been able to stop many of my emotional charges now that I see what I am doing at that moment of making a judgment and it has given me many lighter days!! I am setting my intent every day not to judge my husband! When I do have an emotional charge and put the reaction out there, it will bring on a sleepless few hours in the middle of the night. That, I suppose, is a self judgment...not being able to accept my own mistakes as I see it very clearly after projecting, but then it is of course too late to take it back.
I truly feel ready to stop adding any suffering to this planet, this marriage, but perhaps one needs to stop judging oneself before being able to truly stop judging others. Any clarity is very much appreciated.
Love and light!
Dear Friend,
What a fantastic realization! This is the easiest way to spot judgment: pay particular attention to your feelings. As soon as you lose your center and have an emotional reaction - you are judging. My favorite is to complete this sentence (taken from my books).
I feel ____
what emotion?_______because I believe_________
what?____.
And example would be: I feel
humiliated because I believe that my girlfriend told all my girlfriends that I looked terrible in the new dress I wore to Cindy's party. In this case we can see that the fear-based emotional reaction of humiliation was caused by the linking of ones self-worth to what others think about us. You can see the self-judgment based on how others judge us.
Once you get the hang of this it will happen automatically in your mind and you will start to see right away what your issue is. Remember - there is nothing out there to upset us - we upset ourselves with what we tell ourselves about what's happening out there.
Love, Sheri
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